Monday, 10 June 2019

मधुकर भावे माझे पिता

कै मधुकर भावे माझे पिता 
कशी बोलवू मी त्यांना आत्ता 
बघण्या साठी माझी इच्छा पूर्ती 
"मधुर भाव " रूपे घडवली कलाकृती 

निर्मिती मधुर भाव वृद्धाचे घर
 केवळ आपला वरद हस्त  थोर 
त्याच्यात च संतोष वाटे मना फार 
थोडेसे ऋण फेडयांसाठी संधी अपार 

आपणा प्रति अन्याय नाही झाला सहन 
विचाराची शृंखला झाली मनी  गहन 
निश्चय केला हाल अपेष्ठा करण्या हनन 
उचलली पावले थोर पित्यास स्मरून 

मधुर भाव हि वस्तू वयस्कर लोकांसाठी 
समस्या व्यथा त्यांचाच जाणून घेण्यासाठी 
मुंबई ला  प्रयाण केले अभ्यासा साठी 
पूर्ण करून अभ्यास परतले कृती साठी 

अजामिती दोन ठिकाणी आश्रम वसविले 
वस्तीस आले त्यांचे  बस्तान बसविले 
वेळोवेळी हर्षमोदने  हि हसवले 
आश्रमात आल्यामुळे नाही कोणी पस्तावले 

पिताश्री एकाच विनंती तुमचा चरणी 
कधीच नाही होणार ऋणफेड भरणी 
क्षमा असावी अंजली  ला  हीच मुख्य मागणी 
धन्य झाले जन्म घेऊनि माधुरी मातेचा उदरी

श्री सिध्द्यनाथ रेणावीकर 

Sunday, 21 April 2019

Prayers Heared

Prayer heard  

Prayer heard  
 On 11th Feb 2019 Mr.  Dinkar Bhide 87 was admitted with MadhurBhav Senior living home.  He was very strong headed when the family member saw that it’s difficult to manage at home, they searched on google and came to Madhurbhav. They brought father who is thin very well learned, spoken Sanskrit and written books on Bhagwat Gaeta. he started having illusion that he is suffering from cancer and he has not gone to the toilet for six months, his blood has become black and does not want to eat food since he had been suffering from constipation (Movie Piku) He was some like that, He was very choosy about the food which is having and would tell if its prepared well or no? He will ask for milk, banana. Tea, biscuits, fruits, grapes, mango. He will not eat meals at a time and refuse and told that your cook is not cooking well and will depend on the food from outside, everybody used to like him so much that in spite of he being very stubborn and will not listen and will tell. you get out of my room, he would ask how to sneak around from the place which is way to go outside the premises so he can escape from the Madhur bhav, his family members used to visit home weekly to find out how is he doing, he would tell that arrangements are good, but staff is beating him in the afternoon, staff is not good, this was to take the sympathy from family that family members would take him home. Then slowly he started hitting the staff and would not listen to eat food.  He had become a week too. We insisted to have the food, he would throw from the window and will let us know that he has eaten well. I realized that he does not want to live anymore. He is n  deep depression, more than he started giving up on food, water, and medication. This results in weakness and we tried saline on him. He would not listen and pulled all the tubes and threw out of the room. We showed him to psychiatrist, he clearly told that I don’t want to live so he is not eating and taking any food. all the staff and myself worried about his health, the person who came here and very demanding has suddenly become very docile and not getting up ( sleeping all the time )  with no interest in  food  . Forcing him to eat was also limit by itself. I called up relatives to meet him often as the condition does not look all that great, relatives came and fed Upma which is favorite but still, he said it’s too salty. Doesn’t want to eat.
Days passed and I saw palpitation, called his daughter in law to find out what he likes so we can feed him to save his life .we offered him juice in the morning, which he drank and evening again when the daughter in law told that he loves sugarcane juice, please feed him and will visit him tomorrow morning.
Poonam was there and ordered sugarcane juice and he drank the whole glass without any resistance and after some time when staff went to give the milk at night, Baba was in sleep to never to get up and we thank daughter in law as she said to give him sugarcane juice and he took last breath afterward.
 I think his prayers being heard by God and took the last breath on April 5th, 2019.

Sunday, 10 March 2019

बांगडी ( छोट्या गोष्टी मध्ये आनंद )

आज मधुर भाव मध्ये ३०-४० आज्जी राहत आहे , बरेच  आज्जी आपले घर समजून राहता आणि मला पण त्यांचा साठी सतत काही तरी करावे आणि आनंद द्याव्या असेच वाटतं राहते . महिला दीना साठी मी वेगळा विचार केला आणि चक्क बांगडी  वाल्या ला बोलावले आणि सगळे आज्जी   excercise  करून prayer गात होते . मी विचारले कि बांगडी कोणाला  पाहिजे आणि सगळे चा चेहर्या वर जो आनंद  झाला , खरे पाहता हि बाब अगदी छोटी आहे  तरी पण जी काही चेहेरे  आनंदी झाले ते बघ्या सारखे होते , काही आज्जी नि विचारले याचे पैसे कोण देणार , माझा कडे काही पैसे नाही . आमचा कुलकर्णी आज्जी बेड  वर आहे त्यांना विचारले कि बांगडी घालायची का , ते मनः पासून हसले आणि इथे कोण येणार असा  प्रश्न देखील विचारले . मग पसंती चा कलर सांगितले आणि बांगडी घातली . काही dementia  स्मृतिभ्रश  आज्जी विसरले पण आणि मलाच संध्याकाळी कोणी तरी बांगडी वॉलायनी बांगडी दिले सांगितलेया आज्जी ने तर मला मोती चे माळ पण पाहिजे असं हट्ट धरला . दुपारी  जेवण पर्यंत बांगडी विषय चर्चा चालू होती आणि मग वेगेवेआठवणी ना उजाळा मिळाला
मला तर त्यांची  हौस पुरविता  अली त्या मध्ये समाधान आहे
खरे तर म्हतारपणी त्याचा फार काही अपेक्षा नसतात आणि थोडका मध्ये खुश राहता . पण मग हे सगळ्याना जमते असे नाही . मी जेष्ठ नागरिकाने मध्ये गेली १० -१२ वर्ष काम करत आहे आणि  मधुर भाव चा निमित्ताने त्यांना आनंदी ठेवणे हा ध्यास घेतल्या मुले कायम त्यांचा विषयी चे विचार २४ तास असतात . माझे सहकारी नेहमी  विचारात कि तुम्ही कसे आज्जी चे मन ओळखून गोष्टी प्लॅन करतात कि सगळे आज्जी आणि आजोबा खुश . माझे आजोबांशी सवांद झाला तर त्यांनी लगेच मागणी सांगितली कि त्यांना perfume आणि रुमाल पाहिजे .
मी विचार केलं कि पूर्वी चे आज्जी ना बांगडी घालणं  किती कौतुक चे आणि जिव्हाळ्याचं विषय आहे आणि लग्न मध्ये बांगडी भरणे हा तर त्यांचा आवडता कार्यक्रम होता अश्या प्रकारे  दिवस आनंद मध्ये गेला 

Monday, 12 February 2018

A visit to Happiness

Its been almost a year and a half I personally got associated with AJ Foundation and Madhurbhav. 

Of course, there was an indirect connection for many years, as Mr Harshad Deshpande  (Board member AJ Foundation) has been Family for almost a decade. Thus, Mrs.Deshpande and I had been informally doing certain things on creative ends for Madhurbhav.

It was in January 2017 that we decided to take up social media activity, blogs, and other writing stuff for madhurbhav on a channelizing front and a little more regular.

That is where my formal association with Madhurbhav, the people there, their stories, became more prominent.

Since the time I began writing, I have always been in awe of the raw blog stories that came to me from madhurbhav for editing and presenting them in the right way.
The connect and understanding of madhurbhav and members is beyond amazing. 

Being a mass communication and journalism postgraduate, my inclination has always been towards writing.

Right, from when I was a kid, writing poetry's, short stories, four liners has been my forte.

Writing for Madhurbhav made me realize, that;  this is what I was meant for. as expressing emotions, psychological process, understanding people, without being judgmental, has always been something I loved. and what better than putting all that in words?  for people who are living their second half in a different way.

Earlier this month, Ii had my 1st visit and the luckiest experience to meet all the seniors, from both the centre's (Madhurbhav bliss & blossom). 
I wrote some of their stories even before meeting them, through the information provided to me, by Mrs.Deshpande. But; talking to them one on one, seeing those smiles and content feeling on their faces, when they warmly held my hand and welcomed me to their home, it was something worth a lifetime.

All of them are there, because of entirely different reasons and situations. yet, the life they have made there out of all the odds or needs that came their way is inspirational.

They were all so welcoming, enthusiastic to talk, ask questions, give information about themselves, express themselves through singing some songs that I don't know, meant how much to them. Their welled up eyes while listening to some meaningful Marathi songs, that some fellow family member sang, said a lot about their strength and will. 

I also had the chance to take my mother along. she always told me, whenever I visited, I should take her along.
she was more interactive with them than me.

After we left, she told me, "The most impressive thing was the way the staff at madhurbhav deals with the members.There  are a lot of seniors with critical medical conditions (Bed sores, Cancer, Alzheimer, Parkinson, paralysis, etc ) also, the level of hygiene is remarkable for a place with so many bedridden patients, But,  the compassion & patience the staff, doctors everyone has is commendable and that is why I think the atmosphere and their life there seem so lively and happy. I am proud you are part of something like this."

I was happy I could make her feel that way, by being associated with something so compassionate and expressive. Because,  she always taught me as a child, 'expressing yourself is an art, but expressing someone else is a self-less art.'

I really would like to congratulate Mrs.Deshpande and team, also Mr.Harshad Deshpande, for the contribution he is making at the age, where other people of his generation lac, time, effort, the warmth and affection needed to be a part of something like this.

And my heartfelt gratitude to both of them and the entire team, for giving me a chance to be a little part of this beautiful journey.

Looking forward to the journey.

Thank you,

Sunday, 28 January 2018

Maitri Madhur Sahjeevan

A regular visit to bliss, it was. but; it gave me a totally different perception of the connections and emotional bondings, madhurbhavians have with one another. It was a wonderful experience.
Mrs.Kulkarni is now at an advanced stage of dementia. Where her conversation is absolutely vague. One sentence has no relevance to the next.Even before you ask her, to introduce herself,  She will start with where she comes from, what's the areas name, roads, landmarks and then suddenly jump to discussing about children and then say something about a distant niece, her job profile with Air-India, etc . and it goes on to losing track in a few seconds.
We have another senior age 103 Years ( Wakalkar Ajoba), he is fit and well versed in conversing. he shares his life story with everyone and also at intervals, sneaks around in the kitchen for sweets😉.
During the group activities, we observed that mrs.kulkarni connected to wakalkar ajoba as a friend. she would try to communicate with him, work on the activity as a team, soon they started having the lunch together.They are concerned about each other's well being. If one does not turn up for any activity, the other will inquire. Peep in the room and confirm that they are alright.
Even Kulkarni's  granddaughter realized this when she came to visit with her child and Mrs Kulkarni introduced them to Mr.wakalkar. she questioned him, what are you gifting your great-grandchild’.
It was so beautiful, to see, her great-grandchild, now became his also.
this feeling of Sahjeevan (living together, bonding over emotions, caring.)
everyone here is connected to each other as a friend, confidante, or something else. but; they are together heading and leading their second innings in the most amazing manner ever.
now, that truly is a MADHUR BHAV (SWEETEST FEELING)